AMBER LOVE 02-AUG-2014 In the wake of the SDCC Cosplayer incident, the slut-shaming and victim-blaming of cosplayers has gotten worse. The Mecca of trolls, 4chan, somehow has a hit directing people here. I find that HILARIOUS. Yes, a woman who makes costumes, like porn, and loves comics is somehow fueling the hatred of those petulant little boys. Maybe their mothers made them wear embarrassing costumes that were “for girls” or something. I can’t see why anyone would hate us so much. You’ll see the most deplorable comments in these screen captures outnumber the few positive ones in what seems like a 1:10 ratio. If you try to stand up for someone’s fandom expression, you’re simply another target for Anonymous trolls who very likely have photo galleries full of “sexy” cosplayers in their own hard drives. This perfectly shows the reason why I didn’t make multiple posts for every update on the case. If the link is posted somewhere people will see the fullest version of the story that I have.
What the SDCC Cosplayer was wearing was a sexualized Roger Rabbit costume and yet it was far more modest than other costumes at that show. There were Playboy Bunny versions of Star Trek characters (also quite modest) which cover more than most bathing suits these days. Then there were others which were basically naked people adhering to the decency laws at the barest minimum of coverage. NONE of them deserve your harassment or abuse.
That’s only 12 pages. It goes on and it’s more of the same uncreative attacks about how women are at fault for their own oppression and how there’s “good” MRA and “bad” MRA.
As these trolls make post after post calling cosplayers whores and saying Cosplay =/= Consent a man-bashing soapbox that has no validation, they don’t even see the irony that the words they are typing are EXACTLY why our community has groups that battle the harassment and degradation. Just because they haven’t physically assaulted someone personally, they think there’s no problem in our subculture. This little trip to 4chan is probably only my second or third time even seeing that site. The Anonymous trolls use language that would give any psychological profiler a laughing fit. They sound like a bunch of privileged white male wanna-be millennials who are angry at their parents and girls who have rejected them so they turn to the MRA likings of psychopaths like Elliot Roger.
The subject of consent escapes these little boys. They see any female of any age expressing sexuality and sexual desires and she’s labeled a “whore” and “deviant.” Sidebar, those aren’t “bad” badges to wear. They lose the issue of consent in their slings of insults. It is possible to explore sex without ever having sex with another person. It is also possible to be a healthy deviant who doesn’t harm anyone (hey, the kink world is a damn large subculture which preaches safe, sane and consensual behavior).
MYTHBUSTED: Most cosplayers are not having sex in their costumes.
When they ask, “Where is the consent brigade on this?” By this, the Trolls are referring to the news that broke about Milly’s case being an accident not an assault. I’m not about to speak for an entire community of people sick of harassment. I will say, I am right here. I am not going anywhere anytime soon. Your trolling disrespect and “she’s asking for it” attitudes will be the rock on which people like me stand.
No, this teenage girl wasn’t raped but there are thousands of kids who are abused every year whether they are boys raped by priests orÂ girls too young to understand they shouldn’t be fucking their teachers that get 30-day jail sentences because the girls are “older than their numeric age.” Girls at 17 who are getting ready to go off to colleges where boys are allowed to rape them without punishment because it might ruin the rest of their lives. Colleges were male students, menÂ by that age, are allowed to stay in the same school as their victims! The newly introduced Senate and House bills, CASA and HALT are not good enough; they are bare minimums that colleges should have already been doing since the normalcy of coed education. These are institutions that have harassment policies which STILL include safety clauses for students telling them how to not be victims instead of teaching the malleable minds how to not be criminals.
I have some important messages for you, Trolls:
What I Wearing When I was Raped is a tumblr of genuine survivors who don’t fit a standard of “slutty whore outfits”